An Office Affair

 

I was so excited. I was out of work for so long that when the employment agency called and said they had a temporary assignment for me I was ready to just start working. The company was Bossman Productions it was in charge of producing the ultimate performance enhancing products. I was just there to answer phones and make copies, but it was better than sitting at home collecting measly unemployment.

 

The first day I was told that Sondra was waiting for me to give me a run down of my daily tasks. I was to type out letters, order supplies, make copies, answer the phone basically y do what I was told. I was given special instructions on Mr. Black, my new boss. Don’t walk into his office without knocking first. If his door is closed don’t disturb him unless there’s a natural disaster. Every morning his coffee was to brewed fresh and only a special Kona blend would do. Don’t even bother giving him something else. And then you have to drown that in irish cream flavored creamers and then give it to him. Zap it in the microwave a little to keep it hot. Always call him at 11:20 am to see where he wants reservations for lunch or if he wants to order in. If he wants to order in make sure the food arrives no later than 12:10. Use his credit card. Don’t bother him with the details just sign the slip and hand it to the accountant.

 

After a week and a half of working there I was bored out of my mind that I started looking for another job. There’s only so much social networking you can do in one day. Mr. Black ignored me. Sometimes I’d get a rushed jumble of words that sounded something like “Good morning”, but you can never be sure. Just while I was in the middle of dealing with some angry vendor Mr. Black walks up to my desk in his crisp black suit and says “by the way you’re working Christmas Eve.” As if my day couldn’t get any worse. I had already made plans to go to a Christmas party. I had purchased this fabulous dress and shoes that I could neither afford, but most definitely couldn’t afford to live without. The party would’ve been the perfect chance to see an old friend I once hooked up with years prior and haven’t seen again. We’ve flirted via text for sometime now. I had mentioned that I hadn’t been laid in a while and he always joked how he’d surprise me one day and give me the best quickie of my life. The anger inside of me was mounting couldn’t the prick have compassion for anyone other than himself? And just when I thought it couldn’t get worse his lunch arrived. I had was forced to put on a fake smile and take it into his office. I took the styro foam container out of the bag. Went into the drawer and laid out a napkin and silverware. As I turned to walk out of Mr. Black’s office two arms wrapped around my waist and I felt sensual kisses on the nape of my neck. I turned and kissed the culprit no doubtly the my fling from long ago. His hand went up my leg and pushed aside my panties. Then panic set in. I’m about to get it on in my boss’ office. And just as I was about to push him away and tell him to knock it off I realized this wasn’t my fling from long ago this was Mr. Black. And before I could stop and rationalize he lifted me up and put my on his desk. Greasy CHinese food spilled all over the floor. He spread my legs and ate me out. I orgasmed quickly, but I had to have more. He was taking off his jacket he meant business. The bulge in his pants was ever so noticeable. I thought he was retreating in shame and guilt for just starting an office sexcapade with the new secretary. I was surely going to be fired or relocated to another position. One where I’d never have to deal with Mr. Black and he wouldn’t be forced to see me on a regular basis. And while lost in thought Mr. Black’s undeniably voice said clear as a bell “you gonna come handle this or not?” As I focused back on my boss I noticed his pants were dropped and sitting in his office chair ready to go. As I opened my mouth to say something and scrambled in my mind to find someway out of this my body was already doing the unthinkable. We were going at it when the intercom on the phone came on it was the secretary in the lobby downstairs “Mr. Black there’s someone here to see you. I guess that new girl went on a long lunch and never came back. Anyways let me know when you want me to send them back to your office.” Panic attack number two about to set in. Mr. Black’s only reply was “thank you Sondra”. I began to unstraddle Mr. Black when he pulled me in closer lifted me from the chair and placed me on the desk. He thrust into me so hard that we both couldn’t help but orgasm.

 

It was then that Mr. Black pressed the intercom button and said “Sondra I’m coming right now to get them.” He buttoned up his pants, tucked in his shirt and threw on his suit jacket. And he was out of the office. It was lightning. It struck and then it was over. Everything happened so fast that I was still practically dressed. I scurried over to the bathroom and redid my makeup and went back to my desk. Ordered lunch for myself, I figured Mr. Black could afford to buy me lunch just this once. Mostly I just sat there trying to figure out what the hell just happened.

 

The rest of the day I hardly saw Mr. Black. He was busy with a meeting. As soon as the clock struck six I was out of there. The whole drive home I couldn’t help, but think about the days events and of course Mr. Black. He is an attractive man, but his personality made him unattractive. I worked for the man. This affair couldn’t go on. Everything happened so fast I couldn’t stop it. He never once said anything about our office hook up. The next morning I prepared myself for the awkward conversation. 1. I’d be fired or 2. lectured on professionalism in the work place or 3. both. But there was no awkward conversation. He hardly noticed me.

 

The next day was a bad one for Mr. Black. He lost one of his biggest distributor. I could hear him yelling at someone. I needed a break from this place. I walked over to the bathroom where there was a water fountain. I was just about to lean over and take a sip when an arm pushed me into the women’s bathroom. Mr. Black locked the door. And pressed his body against mine. I said “You know I can say no.” “Then say no” he coldly replied. He paused looked me in the eyes waiting for me to reply and then with one motion he lifted my dress up and slapped my bare ass. He lifted me up, wrapped my legs around his body, pressed my back against the cold marble of the bathroom wall and went at it. I could tell he was angry and stressed about work, but the deeper he went into me the more he relaxed he became. I was his new stress reliever. I wasn’t sure if I was ok with being someone’s sexual play thing, but I knew this much it felt oh so good and I wasn’t ready to stop anytime soon. I wasn’t in love which was fine. I didn’t have time for love, but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t indulge in ultra good sex.

 

Christmas Eve came and I arrived fashionably late to the party. I deposited my Christmas bonus from Mr. Black into my bank account. I was a thousand dollars richer. Not bad considering Sondra only got five hundred. I guess screwing with your boss does pay off. The party was ok. My crush never did show. I saw some people I hadn’t seen in a while. All in all it was an early night.

 

Monday at the office a blonde haired, blue-eyed lady walked straight into Mr. Black’s office. She paused long enough to look me over and raise her hand to her hair and brush the strand of hair that fell into her face away. As she put her hand back down I noticed her engagement ring. It was gorgeous. She walked into the office and slammed the door. She lost no time in yelling. “Thanks for the Christmas present asshole!” Mr. Black replied “I thought that’s what you wanted.” “No what I wanted was to be able to announce to our family when we’re going to get married. We’ve been engaged for years, set a fucking date!” the blonde screamed. Just then the phone rang. It was the distributor. Apparently there was something urgent they needed to discuss with Mr. Black. I paged him over the intercom. No response. I had to, but I didn’t want to. As I put my hand on the handle I still tried to find a way out of it a women scorn wasn’t who I wanted to cross paths especially considering I’m fucking her fiance. I am fucking her future husband. What am I doing? Reluctantly I opened the door. The tension held high in the air. I had helped create an escape for it, but now if only I can find an escape. Perhaps just this once I could be teleported or become invisible. “Sir, I have an important call on hold for you on-line 1.” For the first time ever Mr. Black looked relieved to see me. And just when I thought I could escape the blonde exploded. “See what I mean. You’re in love with your fucking job! You never have time for me. How are you going to be a good husband or father when you can’t even give it more time than you spend here. Not to mention I saw the credit card bill. I know you guys went to the strip club.” I expected Mr. Black to crumble over all of her accusations. But it stood there stoic as can be. “Who in the fuck spends that much at a gentlemen’s club without getting a happy ending? What’s it going to take to make this work? What do you want from me?” The desperation in her voice echoed in the office. She loved him. How could he not crumble? He had to have loved her at one point in order to propose. I was about to sneak off back to the refuge of my desk when the blonde said “Is this what you want to see?” Before I knew it the blonde planted a kiss on my lips. She grabbed my face and slipped her tongue in my mouth. It was so erotic. Her passion was intoxicating. I’ve never as much as touched a girl sexually and now I was making out with one. I felt so sexually alive. I felt like I was indulging in a forbidden delicacy. Her skin was soft. She smelled ever so sweet. Her fingertips carefully skimmed down from the nape of neck, down my chest. She opened my blouse to expose my breasts. My heart was pounding. I had no idea what was coming next, but she was in control.

 

To Be Continued….

How to Put the Sizzle Back in Your Sex Life

 

It happens to every relationship you get settled and comfortable with each other. The red lacy matching panties and bra gets replaced with the a t-shirt and granny panties. The time you used to spend with your toes curled is now replaced with bath time, bed time and laundry. So whats a couple to do?

 

Here’s my How to Guide to having the sex life your friends all crave:

 

1. Designate time for each other. Set aside an hour before going to bed that is spent just the two of you. Yes, I get that your tired. Work has you so stressed. One hour isn’t going to kill you. Suck it up. Your husband/wife will be there long after your work stress is over. You choose which is more important.

 

2. Both of you need to understand that your working on your sex life. If you just whip out new moves and toys the first thing your other half will think is who are you cheating on me with? So have the discussion. Be careful on how you discuss this. It’s a sensitive subject. NEVER say you’re not satisfying me or anything in that neighborhood unless you plan on spending a few days in the dog house.

 

3. Be open to try pretty much anything once. You both should know you limits by now. Remember the whole point is to experiment and save your sex life.

 

4. My first step was to consult the Sex Bible… Cosmo. Try out a couple’s game. Yes… we’re adults games are for kids. Your one goal is make sex fun not a chore. I see at least one of you rolling your eyes. A game that gets you talking about your fantasies, having fun together and gets you to try new things isn’t such a bad thing after all.

 

5. Try new sensations. Turn a routine thing into something reinvented. Example: drink some ice water then give him a bj. The coldness mixed with the automatic turn on of receiving head makes for a spectacular sensation.

 

6. Try role-playing. If you’re the dominant housewife and he’s the laid back guy then switch roles. Make him your boss. Talk in character until something gets going. The idea is to create an affair with your husband. Not your husband creating the affair with someone else.

 

7. Go public. Having sex in public places is risky, but oh so fun. Try a movie theater. Wear a skirt you can do the rest. Try a dressing room. Get it on a deserted road in your car. High school style sex. If your too much of a prude to do that try having sex in your car while in the garage or in your backyard.

 

8. Introduce something new. Whipped cream. A toy. Whatever.

 

9. Put on a show. Let him watch you do your solo act whether that’s in person or via Skype. It will turn him on faster than you can say the word masturbate.

 

10. Never underestimate the power of sexting. Everyone does it. Just remember to deliver when he gets home.

 

Eventually you’ll get to the point where you two will have a buffet of new sex tricks to try. Remember keep it simple. Keep it fun. And always keep it sizzling.

Seduction and Lust Unleashed in Eden

He seduced me. It was like the Forbidden Fruit dangling in front of me. He knew I couldn’t resist its delicious sweet taste. I stretched out for the poisonous apple. I know I shouldn’t. I really shouldn’t. Before  could rationalize any more  I lost my footing and I fell in. Spiraling down the rabbit hole that shot out into Alice’s Wonderland where everything wrong was now right and being righteous didn’t matter.  Before I becoming completely immersed in this topsy-turvy fantasy land I decided to take control.
I casually sauntered over to him. Brushed my nose against his neck. Nibbled on the lobe of his ear. Blew my warm breath on the lobe and rested my neck on his shoulder. Gently nudged his chin with the top of my head. I stared into his eyes. I felt his body calling me. I shoved him hard against the wall. I held him at bay. No escape. No retreat. He was in my clutches. I brought him to his knees. One leg at a time I straddle him. Grabbed him by the collar of his shirt. Forcefully pulling him to me. I felt his heart race faster and faster. He was like the moth to the old fame. Willing to get burned just for a chance to feel its warmth. WIth his body pressed up against mine I looked into his eyes and seductively licked the bottom lip. Once my tongue got from one corner of my mouth to the other I bit down on my lip hard. I felt my blood rushing through my veins. I wanted it bad.
The lust was overwhelming me and uncontrollable. I envisioned clothes flying through the air. Bodies entwined. Passion filled sex. I was just about to continue my foreplay game of the pussy cat toying with the defenseless mouse when the mouse wiggled out of my claws. He kissed me.  It was enough to yank me out of my crazy wonderland and bring me back to Eden longing for the apple.

How to Guide for No Strings Attached Sex

 

While flipping through the channels I came across a commercial advertising the No Strings Attached movie for sale. The movie is about two friends that have a friends with benefits arrangement that somehow turns into love.

Ok the idea is lovely. Sex without the maintainance of a relationship. Most people would say sign me up. A few years ago I had such an arrangement. We had gone to school mates and dated for a few months. We had a bad break up, but since we had all of the same friends we were forced to be cordial. We eventually forgave each other for all the unnecessary dramatics and just became friends. Sexually we were very compatible. Personality wise we both knew we just weren’t meant to be. So we made a deal. We both needed sex and we both didn’t want to go looking for it. I mean dating can sometimes be fun, but you gotta do the awkward first date, trying to make move, try to decode all of the signals and wonder when its appropriate to actually get busy. Its exhausting. So we created the perfect “arrangement”.

Here’s our list of ground rules for having the perfect friend with benefits relationship:

1. Set up for success Talk BEFORE anything goes down. Know what you’re expecting out of each other. Know the boundaries. No randomly showing up to each other’s places. No PDA outside of the bedroom.

2. Understand that its over- If you’re using a former boyfriend or girlfriend it only works if you both know that there’s no need for a relationship. Don’t have sex in hoping that’ll turn into love because a.) that only happens in the movies and b.) everyone can tell when someone has an ulterior motive.

3. Absolutely NO JEALOUSY- I can’t stress that enough. There is no relationship in this. If you can’t detach your feelings from the sex then you’ll never have a successful friends with benefits arrangement. She flirts with another guy, Great. It’s not your business. He sleeps with another girl, Awesome. You knew what you’re getting yourself into. Best thing to do is if your going to the same party or bar, whatever the case may be; make sure to give each other the heads up. No touchy feely stuff going on. And whether or not you’re bringing a date. Knowing before you get there will make it easier not to be jealous.

4. Always keep an open dialogue Being honest on who you’re dating, who your interested in may sound like rubbing it in their noses that you’ve moved on, but it’s just prepping them for the possibility of the “arrangement” being dormant for a while. Be honest not snide. If nothing is going on then nothing is going on.

5. Be each other’s best friend- This is a catch-22. Being friends allows you to be comfortable in the bedroom and make it easier to keep the “arrangement” going. On the flip side its a breeding ground for feelings to immerse. Be careful.

6. Discretion is key- Shouting from the roof tops that you have created this really cool easy friends with benefits deal is tempting, but not smart. By telling people about the deal it brings people in and makes it difficult to continue dating while having this guilt free sex. Make a promise to just keep this between you two.

It sounds like a lot of work, but I assure you all the work is crucial. You don’t want to fall in love with your lover that isn’t willing to be in love with you. My friend with benefits and I are still really good friends. There’s pretty much nothing we don’t talk about. We aren’t having sex, but what we do have is awesome. We’re each other’s friends through it all. Our “deal” has stood the test of time and if I ever need a fix, its only one phone call away. ;-)

 

No Sex… Hotter Than Having Sex

I know what your thinking… Did I read that right? No sex is better than having sex? Allow me to explain. This morning I was having a conversation with a male friend of mine and he let me in on his new approach to dating. After listening to it I thought it was brilliant. (Sorry Officer I’m sharing your secret with the world or at the very least my readers.)

 The Officer’s Method for Fantastic Sex

Number 1 rule: Sexual contact or mentions are forbidden!

You meet a person your interested in and start dating. Go out to dinner. There’s no ogling at her breasts. No mention of her ass looking great in those pants. After dinner driving her home there’s a make out session, but no touching south of the border. No sexting. No phone sex. This girl is gorgeous and she relieved to have a man in her life that she’s attracted to that doesn’t just want sex from her. By mentioning how sexy she is all the time, may look like your complimenting her, but to her she feels like she’s a sex object not a person. By taking sex off of the table she wants him even more.

 I am also on the no sex route. I am 2 months in on a 6 month vacation from sex. As a person that writes about passion, most people think it’d be hard. I have gained more than I lost from not having sex. Without sex on the agenda I’ve made room for romance and really getting to know someone before going down that path. I’m up front to the people I date that I am on this journey. Most are accepting and understand what I’m doing. I think most are intrigued since so many woman are ready to hop into bed after one date.

My Pro’s of Not Having Sex

1. You can develop a relationship and become emotionally invested before doing the hanky panky.

 2. Setting a period of time before a new date can have you allows you to weed out Tom, Dick and Harry that are only in it for the sex and not willing to win your heart. Your heart is valuable. Why do you think it gets broken so many times? You give it away freely. Make them work.

3. It forces whoever you’re dating to respect your boundaries. If they aren’t willing to respect your boundaries what makes you think they respect you? Sex is not a necessity. It is a barometer on how the relationship is going. But you have to establish the relationship before you can test the pressure.

 4. Without sex you are forced to talk about the hard stuff. Some guys don’t like to talk about the deal breakers because they are afraid that they’ll go through the maze without ever getting the cheese.

 5. I don’t know this, but I’m going to assume the sex will be better. 6 months of waiting outta be worth something.

 I’m not saying to go cold turkey for 6 months, but I can say it is working for me. I like this no sex period. So for right now no sex is hotter than not having sex and hopefully leading to the steamiest hottest sex I’ve ever had. ;-)

But Chains and Whips Excite Me

I woke up on a bleak December morning. I was preparing myself to what I knew would be a chaotic day at work. I decided to indulge myself in a latte. After all the rest of the day was doomed to be a pandemonium. Of course the line was long. There was a flood of people crowding this tiny coffee house. I watched the clock. The second-hand continued to move even though I was stagnant in my place. At last I got my double pump of caramel, two shots of espresso and topped with whipped cream and sprinkles latte. I scurried over to get a sleeve for my cup and a stirring rod. I turned on my heels to bolt out of there. I only had ten minutes to get to work. As I whisked around I hit something hard. I turned to see if the man in the suit was ok. I had caused him to spill his entire latte on what was his immaculate navy suit. I offered my apologizes and handed him my business card and insisted he let me pay for it to get dry cleaned.

 

 

The day turned out to be even more hectic than I originally thought. My presentation was due in an hour and somehow the flash drive I saved it on contracted a serious case of amnesia. My assistant called in sick. A call came through to my extension even though I told the moron of a secretary that I wanted absolutely no phone calls. “This Raquel. How can I help YOU!” I barked at whoever was on the other end of the line. “Uh. Hello? Its Phillip Preston. The guy you scoured with coffee.” As I recollected the scene that played out this morning at the coffee shop embarrassment and panick set in. I figured honesty was the best policy. “Listen Phillip I am extremely pressed for time. Can I call you back after work?” There was hesitation on the other end. ” Yea, I was thinking that instead of you paying for my dry cleaning that we could go out to dinner sometime?” I leapt at the chance. The date was set for Saturday night. I continued the day with the sporadic thought of Phillip.

I went shopping for the perfect outfit. I wasn’t sure where he was taking me, but I wanted to look stunning. I couldn’t say I was attracted to Phillip yet. I had literally ran into him, spilled his coffee and ran off. It had been so long since I’ve been on an actual date that I needed to get out. I found the perfect black dress. It accentuated every curve of my body in a flattering way. He picked me up at my apartment. We shared a lovely meal at a trendy fine dining restaurant. The night went perfectly. The conversation never stopped. After dinner he drove me home, walked me to my doorstep and asked for permission to kiss me. Permission granted he leaned in and gave me a sweet delicate kiss. Then he turned and left.

Over the course of the month we met up after work for dinner and drinks, twice a week. On the weekend we’d go out on outings together. We’d go see new art exhibits, go to the movie theaters, go to see a concert and the list goes on. I wasn’t sure if I was in love with him. I did enjoy his company. He was a little too passive. Phillip was the type of man who never seemed sure of himself. I was a direct, powerful female, I needed a mate that was a super alpha male. We had never had sex and that was curious to me. We had a shared the good night kiss, but never anything more. Everytime we kissed he asked for permission. I disregarded it as Phillip just being a polite gentlemen.

Then one day he texted me and said he had to see me, we have to talk. Even though I was rolling my eyes and thinking oh no here we go I agreed to see him. He came over to my apartment. He sat on the couch and began what I thought was the “it’s over” speech. Phillip was antsy. As he turned in his seat; I sensed he was nervous. “You know I like you Raquel and I’ve had a great time with you. I want to sleep with you, but I’m into alternative methods of pleasure and I’m not sure you’d be into what I’m into.” I blurted “what do you consider alternative methods of pleasure?” With a look of concern on his face he said “I’m a submissive and I’m looking for a dom.” “You mean a dominatrix? I thought those people only exist in movies.” I was shocked. I looked at him like a freak. Like an animal that needed to be locked away immediately. As I cast my eyes upon Phillip I knew he was embarrassed, let down and disappointed with ever thinking that I could be trusted with his secret. As he walked over the threshold of my front door I stopped him. I couldn’t help be curious. If anything I would learn about a new sexual practice. “Ok. I want to know more. How does this work?” I yelled after him.

After first he was unsure and so was I. But as he explained it to me, I became more and more interested. It intrigued me. I was yearned to learn more about how the body feels pleasure. I felt comfortable knowing that he was the submissive since I was the one with the control. We first had to agree with a scene. We both had to completely understand our roles. I had familiarize myself with the equipment I was using and the danger signs to look for. The knowledge I was gaining was incredible. Every toy had a different purpose and pleasurable in its own way. Together we created safety words just in case the pain was too intense. We agreed on an evening to play out the scene and on our separate ways we went.

I arrived at his house. My costume in tow. I was still iffy about the whole thing, but the idea of playing this dominant, powerful woman had me hooked. He turned his basement into the “play room.” It was dark and musty. In the center was a table with leather straps on each corner. I was anxiously excited. I got dressed in my leather skin-tight costume. I pulled on my leather knee-high boots and grabbed my black riding crop, took a deep breath and left the bathroom. I transformed into a different person when I pulled on the leather mask. I felt like an almighty super hero.

Phillip was patiently waiting for me naked next to the table. I commanded him to lay upon the table. I grabbed the restraints and immediately began to tie him up. I lit a series of candles. I placed a metal cock ring around his penis to keep it erect. I took my riding crop and ran it down his body. “Your not going to like this Phillip. You thought you could embarrass me you stupid fuck.” I hit him across the chest. A red mark served as a reminder of the pain I inflicted upon him. For a minute I felt terrible. Phillip seeing that I was concerned about hurting him replied “Raquel? Green.” Green meant keep going. I snapped back. I couldn’t back out now. I hit him again. The sound of his flesh meeting the riding crop was echoing throughout the basement. Before I knew it I couldn’t stop. All the aggression I had bottled up inside was being brought to the surface. I felt overwhelmed with emotions of wrath, fury and rage. Emotions that could only be released with making Phillip feel my vengeance. Red marks served as traces of the pain I was inflicting upon him like a sick twisted road map of where I had been. He never let on that he was in pain. As I got bored with the riding crop I grabbed a candle. I straddled Phillip and proceeded to pour hot wax down his chest. I watched as the red wax went from liquid to a hardened wax. Phillip squirmed as he felt the scalding hot wax touch his skin. He let out a whimper. His eyes were focused and I knew he could handle more pain.

This was supposed to be pleasurable and so far I wasn’t feeling any pleasure other than the feeling of dominance. “You disgust me. Here I am doing all the work and you’re just laying there. You want to please me you stupid fuck?” I barked him. “Yes, ma’am. I do want to please you.” Phillip said in confused and feeble voice. I was going off script, but I was the Dom. I was in control. I stared down at Phillip as he lay there not knowing what to expect. I could see he was still hard and erect. I went down by his feet. Climbed up the table. I crawled all the way up. I straddled his face. I shoved his face into my crotch and said “then please me.” I never felt so turned on and so in control. At last I was satisfied. “That will be enough” I snapped. I untied him. There were shackles against the wall suspended from the ceiling and some bolted into the floor. “Against the wall you sick fuck” I yelled at him. “Yes ma’am.” I got him into the shackles. He was my slave. I began flogging him with a whip. With every crack of the whip he’d wince in pain. Welts were beginning to appear all over his back. I ran my nails over them. “Yellow!” He screamed. I cracked the whip once more. I walked around to see him face to face. I bit him. I sunk my teeth into the side of his neck. As deep as I could go. I took my nail and traced a path from his neck, down his throat, down his chest and stopped finally at his nipple. I had to nibble. I was more forceful than usual. I grabbed the nipple clamps. Once they were securely pinching his nipples I flicked them. I could see the shock of pain being released throughout his body and then a release of endorphins. “You wish me to release you pathetic excuse for a man?” “Yes Mistress. Please release me from my shackles.”

On the opposite wall there was an array of chains, leashes and whips. I ripped a leash off the wall and told Phillip to get on all fours. I linked the leash to the collar around his neck. I wrapped the leash around my hand and pulled it tightly. I had spotted a vibrator I covered it with lubricant and began penetrating him anally. Goosebumps began to appear all over his body. I shoved the vibrator in and left it in and walked around and flicked the nipple clamp again. He screamed. The sensations were overwhelming. “You’re not a man! You can’t even handle a little pain. ” I yelled at him. I saw his eyes. He was in unbearable pain. I had to stop. “Red. Release Phillip.”

I had taken the power I held over him to a new level. I could no longer be a witness to his suffering. I couldn’t bring myself to inflict anymore pain. I was burying myself in my own guilt. I couldn’t help, but to peek at him laying on the floor with gashes on his back, bite marks, red skin from where I burned him and the clamps had been. I felt wave a remorse wash over me. I repeatedly apologized for hurting him. He smiled at me and said “That was great you did great. I knew you were a natural. We should do it again sometime.” I was left reviewing the sins that I had just committed and trying to find some way I could repent for my shameful acts. Then it hit me… He enjoyed it! I had to get out of there. I changed into my clothes and kissed him on the cheek goodbye.

I never wore my knee-high boots, black leather domantrix costume or cracked the whip again. Once was enough for me. I never saw Phillip again. I couldn’t bring myself to look him in the eyes again. The eyes I had brought so much pain to. As far as I’m concerned sex without the pleasure isn’t sex at all.

The Price of Virginity

 

 

 

First and for most I’d like to say that this blog is NOT a discussion about religion and I will NOT have a religious battle with anyone. My religious beliefs are personal. This blog is in fact intended to make your think and react.

 

I recently visited a friend from high school and we of course found ourselves flipping through old high school pictures. We came across a female friend that he pointed out as an “everything but girl”. As we started discussing it, the idea became more and more ridiculous and really hypocritical to me. The idea is to stay pure until you’re married, but until the day of I Do comes; you can relieve your sexual tension by having oral and anal sex. My reaction is… ok that’s your choice (do your thing), but do you really feel that having someone’s ooh ha in your mouth or up your butt is so much more pure than the regular way? Oral and anal is still followed by the word sex, so to me your not a virgin. So this girl will get married and all the while she’ll think in her head that she’s a virgin. What’s going to happen when her and her husband go to have sex for the first time and he sees that she’s a freak? If your going to be pure stay pure don’t stray.

While online I came across the “born again virgin” concept. This idea has many different meanings. The most common one is abstaining from sex for a year and its like you’ve never had sex. There’s also a hymen restoring operation where you can pay someone to sew your hymen together and insert a capsule of blood. And the final meaning is Christian churches are telling young ladies that they too can become born again virgins by receiving God’s power and forgiveness. The hymen restoring surgery is mostly for Muslim women who must remain pure for their honeymoon night. This woman honestly felt that surgery was the only way she could try to reverse her sexual past. In this woman’s culture your parents set up an arranged marriage for you and after your honeymoon night your new husband takes the bed sheets and shows them to his mother and aunts to verify that you are in fact a virgin. They’re looking for a little blood from the hymen tearing for the first time. If they don’t see any blood the marriage can be annulled and you are seen as a disgrace and are outcast. It’s not a part of my culture, but I can understand the importance. Why not abstain from having sex and prick your finger while he’s asleep? Is the surgery really necessary? The woman is still NOT a virgin. She chose to lose her virginity. She had sex with multiple men. So essentially she paid thousands of dollars to fool everyone she knows into keeping this image of her being squeaky clean.

I respect the choices of every individual woman and if they chose religion over having sex with random men then hats off to those women. There’s nothing wrong about wanting to skip all the “Mr. Right Nows” until the right one comes along. I happen to think that sex is a meaningful expression of love between two people. Sex is the telling sign of how a relationship is going. And what if you hold out all this time and it turns out your husband lacks in size or he stinks at it in general? I know people will say well we’ll work on it together. Do have any idea how frustrating it is to like someone for who they are and they suck in the sack? It’s like an over cooked filet mignon. It does no one any good. What if you end up getting a divorce? With most marriages ending in divorce its a factor you can’t overlook. Then you gotta start all over again. Go to church, find a fiance and have a surgery. Sounds painful.

My problem with “born again virgins” is your still not a virgin, you can’t erase the first time you had sex and who it was with, so why try? Being pure is a good idea, but harder in theory. With today’s young people losing their virginity at around 17 can one really blame the choices of a kid? Why is it only a women’s virginity that is heavily questioned? I’ve honestly never heard of a man being judged for not being a pure virgin. In some cultures parents have their sons sleep with prostitutes for practice. Why the double standard? Losing my virginity was bad enough the first time. At the time I thought we were going to be together forever. He’s a cool guy just not for me. He may have my v-card, but we never made love. We did what we did as kids and I don’t regret it in the least bit. I think my sexual escapades were opportunities to learn about pleasure, become a better lover and gain knowledge about myself. Being pure is great, but making love is so much better.

http://shoshanaorama.wordpress.com/2010/12/07/born-again-virgin/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-502714/Why-Muslim-girl-born-virgin-wedding-night.html

http://www.christianitytoday.com/iyf/hottopics/sexabstinence/7c2041.html?start=1

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Virginity

Relationships and Pornography

 

Relationships and Pornography two things that don’t seem to go very well together, but trust me they can. If you know the rules not only can you master the game, but get rid of the porn once and for all.

I’ve been dating for a little while now and every man I’ve ever known has a porn collection. Men in relationships often bring their porn with them. Women don’t know what to think of it. On one hand it allows a man to get out sexual frustration, but in order to get off their using another women’s pictures, body, videos, etc. So whats a girl to do?

From a man’s perspective its harmless. The good ol I can see, but can’t touch.  When you won’t give it to them they’ll take care of themselves. They get what they need without cheating. You get to keep pretending to have your headache and he gets the release he wants.  Its the best part of a relationship the sexy woman and hot sex.

From a woman’s perspective looking anywhere for sex other than your partner is considered cheating. Its a mental affair.  It hurts. Women need to feel like they’re needed, especially sexually. Pornography intmidates a women.  It makes her feel like at any given time you could replace her or go looking to make your fantasy come true.  Dirty talking, kinky sex games, exits that are now entrances and orgies; its enough to scare to anybody. For women sex is measured heavily on the emotion attachment. Thats why porn doesn’t work for women, they can’t relate to or become emotionally involved with the person on the tv.

 Most men are unwilling to give it up and women can’t stand the  site of it. Can you blame them we’re all being over-sexed. We see sexual images everywhere from the Disney teeny bopper playing a stripper in her latest music video to the latest energy drink commercial.  Is there any compromise to be had? I’d like to think so.  Ladies stop looking at porn as a disgusting and shameful habit and start using it as an educational tool. How  you ask? What better way to know what your man wanted then to watch what gets him off? Ask to see his favorite scenes. If its still too  much for you to stomach try this while watching pick apart the “actors”.  Find humor in the video from the noises, to wardrobe, to making fun of the real kinky stuff. Bringing out flaws in the stars make them more down to earth and imperfect, boosts your confidence and makes your man see that being with you is so much better. Being able to laugh at something together is always a plus. After seeing his favorite scenes, reinact them. Just do it. He sits through the sappy chick flicks for you, do this for him.

What if whatever he likes is outside your comfort zone? Thats the point. In order to spice up your relationship you need to think outside the box. Every  person has boundaries try to get past them.

If your still can’t handle the other woman (porn star) in your relationship here’s my final solution….be the porn star. Make your own videos and your own magazine (make sure they’re in a safe place).  It can be a lot of fun. It makes you feel the sexual power you have over your man. To your man it turns him on to see what a sex kitten you can be. Keeping a video for him to watch when he needs to helps him get off when he needs to and you don’t feel like the other woman is in your bedroom.

Sex is important in any relationship. Its the intimate monogamious part of the relationship. Every guy craves for their woman to be a little more adventurous and a little more sexual. My point is to be the  wife and the porn star. Sexual images are never going to leave our society after all sex sells, but make your sexual image the one he can’t get enough of.

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