Relationships and Pornography two things that don’t seem to go very well together, but trust me they can. If you know the rules not only can you master the game, but get rid of the porn once and for all.
I’ve been dating for a little while now and every man I’ve ever known has a porn collection. Men in relationships often bring their porn with them. Women don’t know what to think of it. On one hand it allows a man to get out sexual frustration, but in order to get off their using another women’s pictures, body, videos, etc. So whats a girl to do?
From a man’s perspective its harmless. The good ol I can see, but can’t touch. When you won’t give it to them they’ll take care of themselves. They get what they need without cheating. You get to keep pretending to have your headache and he gets the release he wants. Its the best part of a relationship the sexy woman and hot sex.
From a woman’s perspective looking anywhere for sex other than your partner is considered cheating. Its a mental affair. It hurts. Women need to feel like they’re needed, especially sexually. Pornography intmidates a women. It makes her feel like at any given time you could replace her or go looking to make your fantasy come true. Dirty talking, kinky sex games, exits that are now entrances and orgies; its enough to scare to anybody. For women sex is measured heavily on the emotion attachment. Thats why porn doesn’t work for women, they can’t relate to or become emotionally involved with the person on the tv.
Most men are unwilling to give it up and women can’t stand the site of it. Can you blame them we’re all being over-sexed. We see sexual images everywhere from the Disney teeny bopper playing a stripper in her latest music video to the latest energy drink commercial. Is there any compromise to be had? I’d like to think so. Ladies stop looking at porn as a disgusting and shameful habit and start using it as an educational tool. How you ask? What better way to know what your man wanted then to watch what gets him off? Ask to see his favorite scenes. If its still too much for you to stomach try this while watching pick apart the “actors”. Find humor in the video from the noises, to wardrobe, to making fun of the real kinky stuff. Bringing out flaws in the stars make them more down to earth and imperfect, boosts your confidence and makes your man see that being with you is so much better. Being able to laugh at something together is always a plus. After seeing his favorite scenes, reinact them. Just do it. He sits through the sappy chick flicks for you, do this for him.
What if whatever he likes is outside your comfort zone? Thats the point. In order to spice up your relationship you need to think outside the box. Every person has boundaries try to get past them.
If your still can’t handle the other woman (porn star) in your relationship here’s my final solution….be the porn star. Make your own videos and your own magazine (make sure they’re in a safe place). It can be a lot of fun. It makes you feel the sexual power you have over your man. To your man it turns him on to see what a sex kitten you can be. Keeping a video for him to watch when he needs to helps him get off when he needs to and you don’t feel like the other woman is in your bedroom.
Sex is important in any relationship. Its the intimate monogamious part of the relationship. Every guy craves for their woman to be a little more adventurous and a little more sexual. My point is to be the wife and the porn star. Sexual images are never going to leave our society after all sex sells, but make your sexual image the one he can’t get enough of.
Jan 10, 2011 @ 22:11:17
The world needs more women like you. Sex is great, its healthy, and its fun. Ladies be the porn star your man wants you to be. Do you really think we’d rather watch a monitor with some chick we will never touch and get off on our own? No……of course not. Everyone needs to compromise when it’s time to get off. If I walk in the bathroom and you are standing in the mirror combing your hair or what not, and we decide we want to turn ya around and lift ya up on the sink…let us. If yous are walkin up the stairs and we grab your ankle let us come up behind you..(stairs are a favorite.. ; ) And there is nothing like a handful of hair! Let us! lol. But above else…let us know we are not only pleasin ourselves but you as well! I know I do…all depending on the neighbors…they might know too! Like Rocky says….be the porn star! Excellent blog Rock!
Jan 11, 2011 @ 03:18:56
Well stated. You’ve hit the nail on the head. I personally love having my own personal pornography exclusive to me. In fact i still prefer what i have over the internet 90% of the time, and as you’ve said it is self ed.
Jan 11, 2011 @ 14:51:34
I think a lot of women are intimidated by their sexual. They’re afraid to be looked as a whore, so they bury their sexual feelings and tendencies. This is why porn is hard for a lot of women to look at and even enjoy. I think pornography can be a tool that can bring a couple closer together, bring secret fantasies to life and spices up your love life. Working together on any level is always a good thing for a couple. Working together to make their sex life better…. fantastic. I hope ladies read this and see porn in a different light. Thanks guys for the reviews, keep on reading and keep using the that porn.
Jan 11, 2011 @ 17:50:52
Another great write-up. It’s actually astounding how much more attacted I find myself towards a woman not only with confidence, but sexual confidence. Porn shouldn’t hinder a relationship but help strengthen it. Rocco put it perfectly basically saying if given the choice between being with you, are watching a tv/computer monitor; 100% we’re going to choose you. The monitor only comes into play as a last resort.
On the opposite side of the spectrum, I have experience being involved with a girl who has her own adult web-cam site. When I first learned about it, I wasn’t thrilled. I didn’t like the idea of other guys getting off to her and felt she was ‘above’ that work. But I later learned that she enjoyed doing it and she actually had a good share of guidelines, rules and regulations…all it took from me was to talk to her and listen to her. Understanding it better, it’s more of a community/business prospect for her.
The Porn door opens both ways. Both sides just need to learn to listen to each other and gain understanding. Do that and the relationship can only get stronger.
Keep up the great topics!